i like this certain girl.. suggestion

[daisuke]

well.. i kind of like this this girl.. which i met 2 weeks ago.. i got her contact and all .. we were chating on msn every night..
i wan to let her noe that i like her.. but i am afraid that after telling her.. she will avoid mi ..
so should i let her noe..?

[Komataguri]

well.. i kind of like this this girl.. which i met 2 weeks ago.. i got her contact and all .. we were chating on msn every night..
i wan to let her noe that i like her.. but i am afraid that after telling her.. she will avoid mi ..
so should i let her noe..?

Slit her throat.


Its not rape if shes dead first.

[Supreme Dictator]

>.> Wrong place to ask for advice.

[Cataulin]

Umm Start talking to her face to face? MSN is fine and dandy but you dont get a feel for the real person.

[Ris]

well.. i kind of like this this girl.. which i met 2 weeks ago.. i got her contact and all .. we were chating on msn every night..
i wan to let her noe that i like her.. but i am afraid that after telling her.. she will avoid mi ..
so should i let her noe..?

Slit her throat.


Its not rape if shes dead first.

LMFAO i love how the boards become a race to see who can get the first "dump on your question" post in

let me put it like this my little friend

if you walk right up to her and tell her tomorrow and shes cool, then you are better off
if shes not cool with it, or doesnt feel the same way you are still better off, as now you know where you stand and can sit down and decide where you are heading from there, to try and win her over or to be friends and move on

in advice in how to break it to her, be confident. no this does not mean slap her ass alot or bear hug her, etc. just come out with it one day "you know i really like you" or something similar, keep it simple.

everyone makes way to bigger fuss about this kinda thing nowadays but in all probability either:

- she already knows
- she will be flattered

[silverace99]

Let me simplify that for you.

Just tell her that you like her, but tell her it's cool if she's not interested.

That way if it doesn't work out you can still be friends. If that's what you want.

[derrio]

...Or if she's cool with it, but doesn't wanna be emotionally attached to you, ask her if she wants to be your Fuckbuddy.

[Komataguri]

...Or if she's cool with it, but doesn't wanna be emotionally attached to you, ask her if she wants to be your Fuckbuddy.

I was about to post the same thing.

[Xandra Kitee]

but tell her it's cool if she's not interested.

NO!

Are you out of your mind ?

It's basic "selling technique" : NEVER EVER talk negatively of the product and don't let a way out of it to the customer.

Seems cold blooded but it's like that.

It can't be cool because it's important to you. If you're cool about being rejected then you're sending the message that you don't really care either way. Who would want to take a bet on such shallow feelings ?

Friendship is not the issue here. It'll come around if it has to later.

[Cataulin]

Basicly make it sound like your the cure to all her STDs...............

[Vlastokov]

but tell her it's cool if she's not interested.

NO!

Are you out of your mind ?

It's basic "selling technique" : NEVER EVER talk negatively of the product and don't let a way out of it to the customer.

Seems cold blooded but it's like that.

It can't be cool because it's important to you. If you're cool about being rejected then you're sending the message that you don't really care either way. Who would want to take a bet on such shallow feelings ?

Friendship is not the issue here. It'll come around if it has to later.

Yes, the first post in here I can agree with.

First off, it hardly ever works out as easily as just telling them you like them and them telling you in response. That's grade school shit. That's "do you want to go out with me: yes no maybe (circle one ^__^)" shit.

You have to go out together. Get to know what each person has to offer, and become more attached. Usually I start off with a group friends kind of outing to start it off, like when I went ice skating with a bunch of friends and that one filipina girl. After that, you call her up and tell her you had a great time, and ask her if she'd like to go to the _____ with you.

As for MSN. It's a great way to be talkative, because most people have a hard time starting conversations in person even more, but the sooner you get it off the monitor and in person, the better. MSN is fine for communicating after you started meeting up, but it does not count before.
Also, make sure you aren't telling her EVERYTHING there is to know about you over the chat. Leave some surprises, keep her guessing.

[silverace99]

but tell her it's cool if she's not interested.

NO!

Are you out of your mind ?

It's basic "selling technique" : NEVER EVER talk negatively of the product and don't let a way out of it to the customer.

Seems cold blooded but it's like that.

It can't be cool because it's important to you. If you're cool about being rejected then you're sending the message that you don't really care either way. Who would want to take a bet on such shallow feelings ?

Friendship is not the issue here. It'll come around if it has to later.

I think I may have mistyped. I meant that you tell her that AFTER she rejects you. If she doesn't, then of course why do it.

[SeeG]

well.. i kind of like this this girl.. which i met 2 weeks ago.. i got her contact and all .. we were chating on msn every night..
i wan to let her noe that i like her.. but i am afraid that after telling her.. she will avoid mi ..
so should i let her noe..?

just do it dun dun
don't be a dick or a loser though
the above statements put it simply as that

[DriftngAsh]

Another option is just to wait and let the girl tell you she is interested. If you're Lucky, she'll throw herself at you, and you wont have to do a thing.

[iffrett]

I like that idea but too bad it takes too long.

[derrio]

Pacifism sucks.

[Vlastokov]

Worst case scenario is both of you like each other and nobody said anything because they were both afraid of rejection.

[Lucky-7]

Another option is just to wait and let the girl tell you she is interested. If you're Lucky, she'll throw herself at you, and you wont have to do a thing.

I like how the "L" in lucky is capitalised. >_>

[Vlastokov]

Hahaha, Freudian slip?

[Shakedown 1979]

I say go the chloroform/rape route works everytime

[Vlastokov]

If they can't talk, they can't say "no".

[Shakedown 1979]

and unlike a corpse it stays warm

[newleaf]

Heh. I'm forever fascinated by this irresistible impulse to hinge everything on a confession. Why bother? If you like someone then simply spend time with them. Actions speak louder than words, right?

[Shakedown 1979]

Heh. I'm forever fascinated by this irresistible impulse to hinge everything on a confession. Why bother? If you like someone then simply spend time with them. Actions speak louder than words, right?

Yeah that and gushing about your feelings tend to scare teh womens off

[Vlastokov]

Heh. I'm forever fascinated by this irresistible impulse to hinge everything on a confession. Why bother? If you like someone then simply spend time with them. Actions speak louder than words, right?

Exactly.
The problem therein lies when one has to be true to his/her self while accomodating for these "foreign" actions. Many a time people are told to "be themselves", but what you know about yourself up to this point is how you react to friends and family, hardly appropriate for this new situation.

How can you be true to yourself in this situation when you don't know anything about yourself in said situation?

Takes practice, and lots of it, but your actions certainly reveal MUCH more than anything you can say; if you do say something, how you say it still counts more than what you're saying.

Might be cause I havent slept in over twenty four hours, or because I took three shots, but I certainly think this is true.